The Pusterom Package: From burned-out good girl to free woman
3 months of 1:1 coaching to help you break free from the exhausting "good girl" pattern โ for good.
Here is the recording of Workshop 2
The Pusterom Programme in practice
โ for those ready for real change
Ready to take the next step after what you watched?
Yes, I'm ready to invest in myselfYou know that feeling when someone asks "how are you?" โ and you say "fine, just tired" โ because the real answer would take too long?
You're the one who keeps everything running. At work, at home, in your relationships. And somewhere along the way, you stopped being a person in your own life and became a function in everyone else's.
You've tried to fix it. Meditation. Better habits. Saying no more often. And maybe it works for a week โ until the guilt creeps back in, and you say yes again before you've finished thinking.
Eller.
You can decide that this is the moment. That this time, you don't just understand the pattern โ you actually break it.
Yes, I want to break the pattern โFrom overwhelmed and exhausted โ to present, free, and yourself again
Waking up already tired, guilty when you rest
Always the reliable one โ everyone counts on you
Everyone else first. You don't know what you need
Tried everything โ nothing creates lasting change
Afraid of seeming selfish if you put yourself first
Waking up with energy and space to breathe
Present โ not just going through the motions
Knowing what you need โ and acting on it
Free from the patterns, not just the symptoms
Back in the driver's seat of your own life
You don't have to figure this out on your own anymore.
The voice in your head is probably saying: "I should be able to handle this myself." That voice is part of the exact pattern we're going to work on together.
You've spent your whole life being strong for everyone else. Maybe it's time someone is strong for you.
Welcome to the Pusterom Package โ 3 months of 1:1 coaching, Enneagram mapping, and deep work on the patterns keeping you stuck. Not just the symptoms. The root cause.
What actually changes โ and how fast
She couldn't remember the last time she had laughed. Really laughed.
Cathrine came to me on sick leave. Good career, organised home, everything in its place on paper. But her days were work, housework, and obligations. Nothing spontaneous. Nothing just for her.
What changed wasn't her circumstances. What changed was that she finally understood why she kept choosing obligation over herself, every single time. Three years later, Cathrine still sends me messages. She sits in the sun now. She laughs with her colleagues again.
"I can do this โ and it's going to be fine."
"For the first time in years, I feel free to just be myself."
She came to me exhausted, lying on the sofa. Burnout has no age limit. She taught me two things I'll never forget: this doesn't go away on its own โ and it is never too late.
Before coaching, she would spring up from the sofa the moment anyone came in the room. She didn't want to be caught resting. After coaching, she could sit at the family table and enjoy the people around her.
"What I learned, I'm now passing on to others around me."
"I've been told to set limits for years. Nobody ever told me how."
She'd been to another coach who said: "You need to set better boundaries." She already knew that. Everyone knew that. The problem wasn't the knowing โ it was the how.
Through Enneagram coaching, she understood for the first time why it felt so impossible for her specifically โ not for people in general, but for her personality type, her wiring, her history.
"Hallelujah. That's it. That's what I needed."
Maren Kvalvaag-Toven
Family Therapist ยท Enneagram Coach ยท Founder, Lille Pusterom
In 2019, I was standing at the kitchen counter packing food for a family holiday. My kids were 2 and 4. My husband was loading the car. And suddenly โ I couldn't breathe. I had to tell him: we can't go.
I was 40 years old. A trained family therapist with 20 years of experience helping others through exactly this. And I had completely run myself into the ground.
The most humbling part wasn't the burnout itself. It was realising that all my knowledge had not protected me from my own patterns. Because this is never about what you know. It's about something much deeper.
Since 2020, I've helped hundreds of women through stress and burnout. In autumn 2024 my book "Out of Burnout" became a bestseller. I know what it costs to hold everything together โ and what it actually takes to let go for good.
That's what we're going to work on. You and I.
Everything inside the Pusterom Package
Enneagram test & mapping
A precise map of your type, unconscious patterns, and driving forces. This is what makes everything else actually work.
4 ร 1:1 coaching sessions
45 minutes, twice a month over 3 months. Root causes, not symptoms. Tailored to your personality type.
Personalised Enneagram video
A video built for your type โ something to return to when the old patterns come creeping back.
Email & phone support
Email support between sessions + 2 phone calls when things can't wait. You won't stand alone in this process.
See all the ways we support your journey
Enneagram mapping, tailored coaching, email & phone support, Breathing Space Journal, and questionnaires โ all designed to work together.
Breathing Space Journal
A daily PDF tool for staying connected to yourself โ especially on the hardest days.
Pre & post questionnaire
See exactly where you started โ and exactly how far you've come by the time we're done.
The heart of those who've felt it
Invest in my freedom โ
"I'm so glad I found coaching with Maren. I handle stressful situations completely differently now โ both at home and at work. I'm more present, and it feels amazing. I am back in the driver's seat of my own life. Thank you so much, Maren!"
"I'd never heard of the Enneagram before coaching with Maren, but it opened a whole new world for me. Together we uncovered the patterns I'd been living by โ the ones limiting me and draining my energy for years. Maren gave me tools I'll carry for the rest of my life."
Three bonuses โ included until the timer hits zero
After the deadline, you can still join โ but you pay the same price for less.
From Stress to Calm
A comprehensive course to settle your nervous system. Audio files, videos, reflection exercises, and monthly live sessions โ at your pace, with lifetime access. Many women notice a shift before their first coaching session.
Monthly live sessions
Monthly broadcasts where we go deeper into themes, you ask questions, and you're part of a community of women in the same process. You're not alone in this.
Meditations โ teach your body to rest
6โ7 simple, effective meditations for better sleep, self-worth, quick pauses, and physical relaxation. If meditation has felt inaccessible before โ these were made for exactly that.
What you get
The Pusterom Package
incl. VAT
Burnout doesn't get better by waiting. kr 34,999 over three months is kr 389 a day โ and the cost of continuing as things are is higher.
You probably have a few questions
"I don't have time for this."
"I've tried so many things. What if this doesn't work?"
"Is it selfish to spend this much on myself?"
"What's the difference between this and therapy?"
"How does online coaching work?"
"Can I split the payment?"
It will never feel like the right moment.
There will always be something else that's more urgent. Someone else who needs you more.
The patterns you're living inside right now โ they've had years to take root. They won't fade on their own.
